Last post I gave a brief overview about how when bad things happen (doors close), they leave behind new opportunities (open windows). It’s a common belief in many spiritual systems, that when doors close God (or deity) opens a window. And it can be a very healthy belief, one that will help you look past the event in your life to the opportunities it creates.
However, depending on what happened, it can be a shock when certain things happen like a death, the loss of a job, or the ending of a relationship. When it happens you can be stuck in shock, disbelief, denial…those first stages of grief really hit hard when unexpected events happen in our lives. And when we’re there, trapped in the middle of such an event, we can wonder where the windows are, let alone if they are open.
Whether it’s a spiritual belief or the tower tarot card, which in the Rider-Waite deck explicitly explains this phenomenon with the lightning striking the tower, blowing the top off, and two figures falling to the ground, having doors closed, our tower hit with lightning as it were, and then having to rebuild again can be startling.
However, there are a few things we can do to find the open windows. 1) Take care of yourself.
All the well-meaning advice in the world can’t help if you are unable to care for yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. This means that if you need to take a step back, do so. Make sure you are eating well, getting rest, exercising, doing those things that you need to take care of yourself. This also means taking care of your emotional needs. When bad things happen you might need to cry, scream, do something to get rid of those emotions. It’s okay, and as part of taking care of yourself, you need to allow yourself the space.
2) Take stock of your situation.
For many of us, we have “inklings” even if they come in the form of our own fears, about what might be coming down the road. If you are in an employment situation, maybe you had felt for a while that things were changing. Perhaps someone gave hints that their health wasn’t well, so their passing, while sad and untimely, wasn’t completely a shock. Be aware of where you are right now in this moment.
3) Be aware of what this means
Once we get to to this point, the windows have begun to open. We realize what this opens up for us. Perhaps someone’s passing leaves behind a bequest which you can use to fulfill your dreams. Maybe the space left by a job can open into something new and allow you to fulfill your goals. Sometimes it’s a very smooth moment between the loss and the clarity. Sometimes it can take a while. Allow yourself whatever time it takes.
4) Listen to yourself, but also listen to others.
If others are echoing what your gut says, even though you might be scared or startled from the situation, then there’s a good chance your gut is right. Often times others are seeing the open windows and can confirm what you’re feeling, that yes, the windows are open.
Next, we’ll discuss transition periods and times. And ways, such as through reiki or spiritual work, to help yourself within the transition. Blessings.