We’ve talked about loving your inner child (or the you at the age you were when the incident occurred) and using reiki to help send healing and forgiveness back in time. But there’s one more action you can take now to help heal those old wounds.
You can forgive.
I can hear you protesting. “I don’t want to forgive.” “Doesn’t that mean I’ll have to forget what’s done to me?” Forgiveness is not forgetting, and forgiveness is more for you than for the other person.
If you don’t forgive, then that person still has hold over you. The incident, and the person (people) who did it, still has control over your behavior. You need to step up and take charge. Release them, but more importantly, release yourself from the heavy weight that you carry around with you when you don’t forgive.
And forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. I won’t forget what was done to me or by whom. I won’t forget those who should have done something to correct the issue and didn’t. But, I can forgive them. I can recognize that someone who bullies, for example, is acting out of his or her own sense of fear. Something I did threatened this person, hence this individual acted out. From a base of compassion and inner light, I can forgive them so that I can move forward with my healing. Whether they get “retribution” or “healing” isn’t within my control. I believe in karma; I have no doubt what goes around comes around. But, I also know it is not my place to mete out punishment or force them to change.
So why forgive when it isn’t in our control if this person will change or will get punished? Because the forgiveness is for us. We will be freeing ourselves from the effects of negative emotions. We will free ourselves from the sickening illness of hate and anger. And, we will start the road to healing.
We all need guides on our journey. I’m blessed to work with several. I’d love to help you find the road to forgiveness and healing. May you have a blessed day.