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The Zen of BICHOK

As writers, many of us, especially on the professional end of the spectrum have a saying: BICHOK

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When you’re writing to deadline, or to pay the bills, then that’s the way it’s got to be. There’s no room for writer’s block; there’s no time to have your muse go out for a walk and never come back. You have to write. Many people use plotting or outlines to help keep them on track. I know when I was actively outlining my stories, it was easy, and very rewarding, to check off the plot points you’d written and know you were that much closer to finishing the gorram book.

While it can be stressful, it can also be very zen-inducing. You know what you want to do, what you have to do, and you do it. There’s a simplicity about it. Maybe it’s your time to yourself and you can shut out the kids and the family and simple be alone for an hour while you pound out a thousand words or more. Or maybe, this is when you are in the flow, complete with music on the stereo and a lit, scented candle. It doesn’t matter why you’re in the zen-mode, only that you are.

Because a large part of creativity is being in that moment, of allowing yourself to step aside from your daily life for a moment and allow the words to flow through you. When you do that, there is a beauty and wonder to the moment. And that’s the moment in which you place yourself.

Yes, many times BICHOK is a chore. After all, there are many other things to do, books to read, movies to see, or even naps to take…if you’re really desperate rooms to clean…before you can complete those words. Yet, when you stop, make time for those words, and get it done, then, you know you’re in the moment and you experience a kind of zen.

It can happen. I promise. And it all begins with BICHOK.

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Danica Patrick And The Law Of Attraction

I don’t normally listen to the news, but last night they were going to cover the Preakness, which I’d watched, so I left the television on while I was doing other things on the computer. After the horse racing coverage, they had NASCAR driver Danica Patrick and were talking about her low expectations. I was intrigued. I wouldn’t expect someone of that stature having low expectations. So I was curious. I listened, and what I heard was like a crash course for the law of attraction.

She started talking about how she didn’t think she had a confidence problem, but that her pit crew did. And then she mentioned that she just wanted to keep expectations low, that way she didn’t disappoint anyone. (I tried to find the video, but our local news show didn’t put it on the web. Boo!)

It was like a law of attraction “clue by four” to me. If she didn’t expect to win, in her own mind, and project that kind of feeling and images, then the outcome is probably going to be less than stellar. That’s the confidence that her pit crew was talking about. The expectation that she had just as much right, just as much ability, and deserved to get that checkered flag as much as anyone. All things being equal…the cars…the crew…the driver…there’s no reason why Danica couldn’t take the checkered flag. Just like professional athletes envision their perfect race, their perfect game, their perfect catch or their perfect throw a million times before the big moment, so too, they expect that perfect game/catch/throw/race/event.

That’s the law of attraction. I’m not a NASCAR driver. I’m good with the speed limit, thanks. But that’s okay. When I envision driving to the store, I think of green lights, open lanes and easy parking spaces. That’s usually what I receive, too. I very rarely hit a red light. There’s hardly any traffic, and even during rush hour I can get out without waiting too long, and the parking spaces aren’t bad.

When we expect the rewards we deserve and believe that we deserve them, they usually come.

Now, I think Danica Patrick is amazing for doing what she’s doing. Heck, it takes guts, skill, nerve, and courage, to push a car to its limits, and sometimes beyond, in a race. I just couldn’t help but wonder, what if she had the confidence her pit crew wanted her to have? What then?

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I read two books yesterday and I loved every minute of it!

So yesterday was a read-a-palooza for me. I started a book in the doctor’s office while waiting for mom to get done. Two hours and nearly the entire book later (I had ten pages left to read. I almost made mom wait while I finished the book, haha!), I was head-over-heels in love with this author and this series. When I went to finish the story later that night, I read the five pages, but then I wanted more! So, I picked up the second book in the series and finished it, too. Stayed up until 2 in the morning, even.

It was completely, totally decadent. It was not crossing anything off my to do list, and was not what I’d planned to do with that time. But you know what? It was taking time for me, doing something I enjoyed, and it was also very much a needed mental vacation.

What are you doing to spoil yourself? Did you decide to let the dishes wait until tomorrow so you could read/crochet/knit/sew/fill in the blank here? Did you decide that you were taking a Friday night for you and doing something fun?

We don’t need to work all the time. We need to take time for ourselves, and a lot of us don’t take as much time as we should.

Don’t feel guilty. Don’t fret over what you need to do. Just take that time for yourself and have FUN!

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Ten Things A Coach Can Do For You

1. Keep you on track with your goals.

2. Help you set new goals.

3. Help you brainstorm new ideas and new directions.

4. Provide firm guidance when you need help getting back on track.

5. Show you the path to your own energy.

6. Lead you to find the answers that were within the entire time.

7. Check in with you and provide accountability.

8. Show you ways to tap into your own inner wisdom.

9. Be there for you when you need a shoulder or support.

10. Direct you to find what it takes to reach your goals.

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